Are you asking “what’s next?” Others want you to go for a new position in the company? You want a new challenge? Your significant relations want you to use the talents they see buried?
I have learned that we live our lives in three phases of consciousness. Understanding where you are gives you a key to knowing what to do next.
Think about where you are relative to these three levels:
• What “They” Want (At this level we respond to what others want from us and for us - - parents, schools, first bosses, companies, friends.)
• What “I” Want (What we see and do to individuate, to become unique contributors, to break out and live according to our own wishes – to go for the big job, get married, start a family, start a business, ask for a promotion.)
• What “Wants” Me (A passionate calling that we cannot ignore, something compelling us to move, even if we cannot envision the end result)
OK, So what to do? Consider these ideas and questions:
1. Stay where you are and recreate your current position through requests with your leadership so that it meets your personal and creative needs at this time. Ask yourself, “If I stay, what would need to change to make this job more meaningful and to contribute?”
2. If your loyalty was only to yourself, what would you change today? Is it time to shift to the “What I Want” phase and clarify that for yourself and others?
3. Is the idea of a new position causing you to rethink your entire career path and line up of responsibilities? Can you give a voice to the inkling that is causing you to stir emotionally? Is it time to listen to your heart and take a leap of faith?
Sometimes living with the questions will surface your best answers.
