By DJ Mitsch
The Universal Law of “Attraction” which is the basis of The Secret, a NY Times best seller by Rhonda Byrnes, really isn’t a secret and it is foundational for coaches. It is a law of physics – like attracts like – and has been experienced by humans, consciously and unconsciously throughout our history. The thing that makes this “news” is that as we all become more conscious, the idea that we have attracted our circumstances, especially the stresses in our lives, is confronting. It gives us reason to pause and take stock of what exists in our space that we don’t want, and what is missing that we do want. We tend to spend a lot of time focused on the missing parts - - thinking stinking thoughts. That simple focus gives us more of what’s missing - - after all, it is a law of physics.
Marci Shimoff, author and speaker who contributed to the book and movie, The Secret and wrote Chicken Soup for the Woman’s Soul was our featured speaker for the Raleigh October Chamber luncheon yesterday. Her challenge to each of the 340 participants was take a new action as a result of the time together. Marci was entertaining and her content hit the mark to remind me about the power of my thoughts and intentions. My message from the speech was the importance of visualizing what I want my life to look like.
Like many women, I tend to over commit my time and energy. I love life and I enjoy an abundance of friends, a company of genuine and masterful colleagues, and a host of clients who challenge me to grow and create. I am a mother of two teenagers which is also a full time job as you parents know. And, I am writing two books. So, it easy to feel pulled in a million different directions. Focus is important, but so is variety for me and inclusion of all of these aspects of who I am. This was an important reminder and it is easy to forget to employ the principles of coaching in our own lives and businesses sometimes.
Marci reminded me to focus on – visualize or imagine – what I want to create. So this weekend I am going to cut and paste pictures on a poster board that capture the essence of what I want to experience now. My life is so dynamic, that by the time I write a business plan as I used to do in corporations, it is out of date. So I have a shopping mall model (I have a black belt in shopping, so this works best for me as a visual) complete with anchor tenants (favorite larger clients) and colorful smaller businesses and individuals populating the spaces.
This weekend I am recreating the mall, pasting the pictures and filling in the specifics in a way that is fun, creative and inspiring to me. I am going to write the amount of money I want the company to generate and my personal salary as a result. I am going to write the details of how and who will publish my books and who will read them. I am going to count my amazing blessings. This will be the business plan for 2008. I’ll let you know how it is going - - and what gets included, accomplished and falls away this year, and why. In the meantime, perhaps it is time for you to cut and paste and imagine!
If you want to become irresistibly attractive and need a partner to help you determine how –give us a call! That’s our specialty and the basis for every coaching engagement.
Since I am the chair of the Chamber’s Executive Women’s Series, I also want to invite you to join us on January 16th when we talk about women and their relationship to money with our speaker, Beth Gamel! Come learn to feed your piggy bank, enjoy some yummy food and great connections with the area’s fabulous business women!
